Fact: most people in their first year of a Bachelors degree in North America were born in 1990. Okay I lied it’s not actually a fact but I’m sure I got pretty close considering that kids who have recently graduated high school were born in 1991 if my math is correct (it usually isn’t, but don’t write in). Therefore, save the odd straggler or mature student who is taking a degree “for interest,” most of the bright-eyed, bushy tailed Clearsil spokespeople I saw on the University of British Columbia’s campus today were born in the year Mandela was released from prison and at the dawn of the Gulf War.
It struck me in the way that revelations tend to strike the unsuspecting: I’m getting older. Alright, it’s not really an epiphany to write home about, but it’s something that one day, for whatever reason will actually occur to everyone. Oddly enough, I think the primary reason people have such a hard time coming to terms with their own aging is they think irrationally that they are alone in it. As a result of this bogus mindset, aging isn’t deemed cruel because it’s inevitable, it’s deemed cruel because it’s happening to you and you only.
As I’ve mentioned before, I work as a make-up artist. I see many different women every day and around the age of 30 nearly all of them begin to have the same skewed self-perception. They come up to me and list the make-up rules that they’ve given themselves because now they’re “old.” They really love this particular colour but they can’t wear it because they “have too many wrinkles,” and their “face looks like a crumpled paper bag” etc etc. I usually just stare at them, suggest something so subtle it’s barely visible and hope that the distinguished woman in her 70’s standing beside them as they have their crisis isn’t getting offended while she tries on a lipstick.
I guess to some degree we all do it. I see friends of mine whom I’ve grown up with and to me they haven’t changed a bit. Sure they have careers or are starting families or have different haircuts but somehow they look almost frozen in time: the image of them as a youngster is overlaid on them as a grown-up. Conversely, I’ll see pictures of myself from only a couple years ago and I can’t believe how completely different I look. It’s like an entirely different person is staring back at me from the photo. No, I don’t think I resemble a deflated balloon, but I’ve matured.
Besides the occasional freak-out though I’m actually pretty stoked to get older because truly, I’m getting wiser. Things that would have tricked me when I was 19 wouldn’t now at 26. Last night for example I was looking through apartment listings on Craigslist, fantasizing about having an extra 100 square feet in my apartment. I came across a two-bedroom, two-bathroom apartment overlooking the water. It had over 1000 square feet, hardwood floors, balcony, fireplace, giant marble kitchen with stainless steel appliances, in-suite laundry…you get the idea. It was going for 1500! That’s ‘Vancouver’ for cheap. A typical place with those features would probably rent for twice that amount easily. I was suspicious, but interested. For a split second I thought that perhaps the owner of the suite just wasn’t as greedy as everyone else in this city and wanted to give renters a fighting chance. I e-mailed him with a few questions about the place and by the end of the evening I received a message back from this M. Dudzinski informing me that he’d be thrilled to rent me the apartment. First I’d need to send his wife in Lisbon a cheque for $700.00 to secure the apartment and then she’d send me the keys and additional information.
Idiot.
I promptly flagged the post for removal and patted myself on the back for not falling for something that would have duped me seven years ago.
So okay, it’s not the greatest feeling when you’re on a university campus and you’re older than everyone within a three-kilometer radius and you know who Jim Henson was and who Jem and the Holograms were and what a mushroom cut looks like. It sucks when you feel like a cantankerous old boot because the “music” blasting from the students union building is too loud and offensive and you’re scandalized by the manner of dress on the young people these days. But it does feel fantastic when you look around and realize that, because you have almost a decade on these kids and are thus incredibly wise and worldly, you’re living comfortably in an actual apartment and they’re holed up in a hostel, still waiting for a set of $700.00 keys to arrive in the mail from a “landlord” in Lisbon.